Sekarang, bila saya kejutkan bangun tidur utk bersiap ke sekolah. Tak lain tak bukan yang saya kena hadap adalah tangisan mereka bermula dari atas tilam sampai la di bilik mandi.
Harta yang berharga
Sekarang, bila saya kejutkan bangun tidur utk bersiap ke sekolah. Tak lain tak bukan yang saya kena hadap adalah tangisan mereka bermula dari atas tilam sampai la di bilik mandi.
Bitting & Children
Yes i do face this problem with Hannah. Dia akan menggigit bila terancam dan sedang berebut barang dengan sepupu dia. Mari kita baca dan lihat dengan lebih dekat mengapakah ini terjadi.
Biting is quite common among young children. It happens for different reasons with different children and under different circumstances. The first step in learning to control it is to look at why it may be happening.
::EXPLORATION ::
Infants and toddlers learn by touching, smelling, hearing, and tasting. If you give an infant a toy, one of the first places it goes to is the mouth. Tasting or "mouthing" things is something that all children do. Children this age do not always understand the difference between gnawing on a toy and biting someone.
::TEETHING::
Children begin teething around the ages of 4 to 7 months. Swelling gums can be tender and can cause a great deal of discomfort. Infants sometimes find relief from this discomfort by chewing on something. Sometimes the object they chomp on is a real person! Children this age do not truly understand the difference between chewing on a person or a toy.
Around the age of 12 months, infants become interested in finding out what happens when they do something. When they bang a spoon on the table, they discover that it makes a loud sound. When they drop a toy from their crib, they discover that it falls. They may also discover that when they bite someone, they get a loud scream of protest!
Older toddlers may sometimes bite to get attention. When children are in situations where they are not receiving enough positive attention and daily interaction, they often find a way to make others sit up and take notice. Being ignored is not fun. Biting is a quick way
to become the center of attention - even if it is negative attention.
Older toddlers love to imitate others. Watching others and trying to do what they do is a great way to learn things. Sometimes children see others bite and decide to try it out themselves. When an adult bites a child back in punishment, it generally does not stop the biting but teaches the child that biting is okay.
Toddlers are trying so hard to be independent. "Mine" and "Me do it" are favorite words. Learning to do things independently, making choices, and needing control over a situation are part of growing up. Biting is a powerful way to control others. If you want a toy or want a playmate to leave you alone or move out of your way, it is a quick way to get what you want.
Young children experience a lot of frustration. Growing up is a real struggle. Drinking from a cup is great; yet nursing or sucking from a bottle is also wonderful. Sometimes it would be nice to remain a baby. Toddlers don't have good control over their bodies yet. A loving pat sometimes turns into a push. Toddlers cannot talk well. They have trouble asking for things or requesting help. They haven't learned yet how to play with others. At times, when they can't find words to express their feelings, they resort to hitting, pushing, or biting.
::STRESS::
A child's world can be stressful, too. A lack of daily routine, interesting things to do, or adult interaction are stressful situations for children. Children also experience stressful events like death, divorce, or a move to a new home. Biting is one way to express feelings and relieve tension.
::WHAT CAREGIVERS CAN DO::
- USE THE WHO, WHAT, WHEN, WHERE, AND HOW METHOD TO PINPOINT THE PROBLEM. When did the biting occur? Who was involved? Where did it happen? What happened before or after? How was the situation handled?
- TRY PREVENTION. If you determine that the biting occurs as the result of exploration or teething, you may want to provide the child with a cloth or teething ring to gnaw on.
If a child seems to bite when tired or hungry, you may want to look at your daily routine to be sure that he is getting enough sleep and nourishment.
If the biting occurs when two children are fighting over a toy telephone, you may want to purchase an extra toy telephone. It does not work to make very young children share. Toddlers don't have the skills to negotiate or understand another child's perspective. - --> this is sooooo true about myhannah and her cousin. always fighting for the same toys eventhough there's alot another toys.
If attention seems to be the main reason for biting, try to spend time with the child when she is doing more positive things. Snuggling up and reading a book together or rolling a ball back and forth is so much more fun than receiving a scolding.
If the child is experiencing a stressful family or caregiving situation, you will want to make everyday life as supportive and normal as possible. Predictable meals and bedtimes and extra time with a loving adult can help. Often, experiences like rolling, squishing, and pounding play dough or relaxing and splashing in the bathtub are great ways to relieve tension. In painful situations like divorce, it takes time and patience for healing to occur.
- TEACH NEW BEHAVIORS. When a child bites, show the biter with your voice and facial expression that biting is unacceptable. Speak firmly and look directly into the child's eyes. For example you might say, "No! Sara, it's not okay to bite. It hurts Jon when you bite him. He's crying. I won't let you bite Jon or another child." If the child is able to talk, you might also say, "You can tell Jon with your words that you need him to move instead of biting him. Say 'Move, Jon!'"
You may also want the child to help wash, bandage, and comfort the victim. Making her a part of the comforting process is a good way to teach nurturing behavior.
Whenever the child is out of control, you will need to restrain or isolate her until she calms down. Insist on a "time out" or "cooling off period." Wait a few minutes until things are under control, and then talk to the child about her behavior.
ok, will try to do as listed above when she started to bite again. i used to have her 'time out' before. dan repeatition is always a must. for her to remember that she is doing wrong
Tips Menghadapi Kerenah Anak(s)

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why la aku blogging bout this kan.
because currently, i am headache with hannah's tantrum. sungguh menguji kesabaran dan keimanan setiap hari. membuat kaler kulitku daripada kecoklatan sawo matang ni bertukar jadi hijau biru. dan kerap juga kulit kaki hannah bertukar kemerahan sebab kena tampar denganku.
so ku rasa ku perlu bermuhasabah diri, mencari penyelesaian yg sepatutnya iaitu bagaimana ku berhadapan dengan kemarahan diri sendiri instead of memarahi my dear dotter itu.
aku nk share tips dari cedukan dari beberapa blog dan forum. sangat berguna utk aku jadikan panduan. and to those yg juga menghadapi problem mcm aku, dipersila kan kita sama-sama ambilnya sebagai panduan dan terus menjadi hot momma yg caring loving dan baik hati.
tips:
1)First thing I always do when I wake up in the morning will be:
Pray to God - to give me strength, guide me to be a better person each day on loving and teaching my kiddies. I prayed for God to help me to setup my mind on focus, search for positive side on my child behavior, strive for fun.
2). PREVENTION is better than PUNISHMENT at that such young and tender age
When the kakak mula nk rampas-rampas barang adik, mama kena jadi orang tengah. You can inject them with the joy of sharing. Kongsi-kongsi kong sini. Kan barney kata, "Sharing is Caring."
Or, mama can tell kakak that she is bigger. She has the POWER to choose what toys/books adik can have. Wah..kakak is very kind. Kakak has a kind heart. Allah loves kind people tau, kak. Mama pun love orang yang kind. Look how happy adik is. *notice brainwashing in action*
Or, mama alihkan adik from situasi yang memungkinkan kakak pukul adik.
Huhu kalau dah penat, rumah bersepah, it's so easy to lose our temper. Been there, done that!
Lastly, think of it this way. We always ask Allah in our doa - to make us solehah, more patient, more loving, etc. Remember that Allah does not automatically grant what we ask for. Instead, Ar Rahmaan gives us the CHANCE to be one. Nak jadi sabar, Allah kasi peluang untuk kita latih kesabaran. So, setiap kali nak naik 'hangin', ingat..
"This is my chance to be more patient! " InsyaAllah.
3) Before I start to talk with them, I try to think clearly and try to put myself in their shoes:
If I am a kid, would I want to see my mother screaming at me?
Do I intend to make my mummy angry on purpose?
Why I am do this?
What is the proper voice should I use?
AM I TEACHING OR PUNISHING?
My own discipline in dealing with my anger with them will be:
1) Quickly bring those *usually one kiddy* in one room (to ensure other siblings seeing what happen between me and his/her, in respective ways) Let other siblings busy playing with toys or reading books or coloring in another room.
2) See his/her face, eye-contact *but in my heart, before I dare to breath any word I kept on saying "Oh God, please help me now! I need you! Guide me through this, I want to teach my child! Pls!*
3) Ask him/her why he/she doing that thing. Why? If he/she told the truth (even it is good or bad as long it is the truth....yes believe me truth always the bitter part), praise them quickly by hugging and kissing, saying "I'm proud of you because you so brave telling me the truth. Allah will be so happy now. And I am happy for you too".
4) If he/she act differently; like more aggressive, quickly bring he/she to toilet, don't talk, don't yapping to 'em, just pour water all over their body and head *but in nice ways* and ask he/she to follow you to take wudhu'. After that, wipe he/she, bring back to empty room and ask he/she on why they're acting like that. Told he/she, you had wash away their anger by putting out the fire with water
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Sometimes I'll say: I'm sorry I can't talk with you for one whole day because you won't tell me what happen. Till we be friend again, I'll talk to you, OK?"
Insya-Allah, usually your kiddies will respect your ways if we as parent do respect ourselves and themselves.
Dealing with toys and books:
:) Before letting them play with toys, reading with their favorite books or art stuff, do make them promise that it is their responsibility to replace all the stuff *make sure you had teach them how to do some clean up before you ask them to do it because sometimes they just don't know, thats why they do need us, rite?*.
????: Malaysia Homeschool Unite http://littlekittle.com/forum/showthread.php?p=284
:) Keep remind them how lucky they are, having such luxury. Remind them about all of their friends out there so poor, didn't manage to own such toys/books/stuff. Told them how hard work for your husband and you to collect money to buy all those stuff just for them. Plus keep telling them "Remember kids, Allah always will blessed kiddies whom always be grateful to whatever they had, Allah will give you more if you willing to share with others especially your own siblings. However, if you won't, I am sorry kids, Allah will takes it back from you. Not me, but Allah. Belive me, sooner or later"
:) Make clean up as a fun game for them like "Uh oh who could clean up within 10 minutes, they surely beat me and be the winner of the day! 1,2,3 go!*
:) Practise & keep on practice
so mommalydzar, tips are there..apelagi, amalkan la, and keep practising.. cian anakmu hannah yg selalu kena marah tu..
????: Malaysia Homeschool Unite http://littlekittle.com/forum/isu-keibubapaan/53-tips-memarahi-atau-menghukum-anak.html#post281





